Ate Tips
Ate Tips is a podcast by Your Online Ate River, offering gentle guidance on navigating life, love, and healing. What began as a TikTok series is now available on Spotify, providing a safe space for listeners who are lost or broken. The host shares personal lessons and insights, aiming to be the older sister figure that many need during difficult times.
Episodes
Can you save a dying relationship?
The hardest thing about this stage is how much are you willing to fight the fight? When will you see things clearly and accept the end? I know these are questions that are boggling you and you're clinging on to hope for a better outcome. Let me hold your hand and say, "I'm sorry."#atetips #mentalhealth #healing #relationships
You don't owe your parents your dreams (PERIOD)
Respect doesn't mean absolute obedience because that only means compromising agency and in this case, your happiness. I wish I never gave up on my dreams, perhaps I'm probably way happier now. If you are someone who is grappling between blind obedience and autonomy, maybe this conversation is for you 🫂#atetips #mentalhealth #filipinoparents
Are you in love or just lonely?
Heartbreak makes us fear loneliness and in response, we hop in to the next relationship carrying a lot of baggage that we expect our new partner to fix. If this feels like something you want to talk about, let's chat 💬#atetips #dating #healing
How to deal with Jealousy
Today, we're unpacking where jealousy really comes from, what it might be trying to tell us, and how to respond to it without letting it take over our relationships or our self-worth. 🌻#atetips #mentalhealth #growingup
Friends can't save YOUR relationship
A relationship between two people should not be a "group effort." I learned it the hard way and I still lost the person in the end to the same person I thought was helping me out... CRAZY.I understand that you feel the itch to reach out to your peers when the relationship gets heavy - you want them to validate you and see why your partner is wrong. But here's the thing, it's not
Anxious and Avoidant Attachments Styles
Whether you see yourself in one attachment style or you're trying to understand someone you love, I hope this conversation helps you make sense of the patterns you've been stuck in and remind you that awareness is the first step toward healthier relationships. You're okay, you just need to talk it out 🫂#atetips #relationships #advice #mentalhealth
Gusto ko magpaligaw but how? 🧐
Courtship used to be so ingrained in Filipino culture but I'm not quite sure anymore if meron pa ba talagang nanliligaw these days. Though the answer to that remains blurry the idea of being yearned and wanted remains strong for many of us who loves the idea of love. It may be quite brazen for some but knowing how we want to be yearned, the best we can do is turn it into a non-negotiable and t
Should you stay if ayaw sayo ng pamilya ng jowa mo? 😀
This was scary to post because my lore behind this topic is DEEP!!! If you're listening to this, allow me to apologize on behalf of the people who never understood how painful it was for you to shrink just to be liked. I hope your mind clears up after the episode and you can have a kind conversation with your partner 🫂#relationships #atetips #dating
How do you FEEL after being NUMB?
It's feels good to be back but the struggle to be back was...something else. In this episode, I explore the conversations I've been having between my healed self and my newly-pained self. I put value in my ability to feel yet its also the source of my inability to move on. So the question stands. How do you feel again after being numb?#atetips #mentalhealth #movingon #healing
Toxic Positivity is a Form of Denial
I'm all for looking at silver linings but too much of it just suffocates what you really want to say. Nothing hurts more than rejecting the hurt you're already feeling because believe me, it will haunt you more than you think if you deny it all the time :<<#atetips #mentalhealth #healing
It's Okay to Be Tired of Explaining You're Tired
We've all been there. Our emotions run before we can even process them and for the sake of maintaining peace, we feel obliged to keep explaining our pain.But I'm here to tell you, that if the people around you really love you, they will wait until you're ready#atetips #mentalhealth #healing
The Ate needs an Ate too
It has been incredibly difficult for me latelty but I owe it to myself to still show up for the things that fills my cup#mentalhealth
Daily Healing Affirmations ☁️
#atetips #healing #affirmations
Why being yourself make some people leave
Some people project themselves immensely on people who can easily be themselves. And more often than not, this is the root of bullying and envy. A lot can change when we choose to walk away from these people but it doesn't make us egoistic, it just means we're self-aware to only surround ourselves with what is good and true. Remember: Alignment pleases the universe. There is no fault in re
What they don’t tell you about meds (Depression and Anxiety)
Things are quieter with these little pills in my life but as with all things, there is a good and a bad. I am not licensed nor a doctor so please seek professional help if you feel called to having your mental health checked.If you have questions on the effects on me and how I manage, don't be afraid to comment or dm me ❤️🩹#LettingGo #HealingEra #InnerChildHealing #EmotionalHealing #SoftHeali
Is it better to be KIND or to be HONEST?
TBH... I also don't know but I do know that sometimes kindness asks us to stay quiet. Sometimes honesty asks us to risk being misunderstood.And most days, we’re caught somewhere in between, trying to protect other people’s feelings while slowly betraying our own.#kindness #honesty #HealingEra #InnerChildHealing #EmotionalHealing #SoftHealing #MentalHealthTalk #HealingPodcast #SelfReflection #R
(F.O) The Breakup No One Prepares You For
No one really warns you about this kind of breakup.There’s no big fight, no clear ending, no final conversation you can point to. Just distance that slowly settles in. Fewer messages. Less effort. A quiet knowing that something has changed.Some breakups aren’t loud, but they still deserve to be mourned#LettingGo #HealingEra #InnerChildHealing #EmotionalHealing #SoftHealing #MentalHealthTalk #Heali
Do I need to be PABIBO to win?
short answer? no.real answer? please don’t.Not everyone finds a Pabibo person as charming as you think they are. Oftentimes, its soft confidence, grace, and the ability to perform well that makes people drawn in believing that they CAN. #Pabibo #HealingEra #InnerChildHealing #EmotionalHealing #SoftHealing #MentalHealthTalk #HealingPodcast #SelfReflection #growingup #GentleReminders #atetips #menta
When you sense a Break Up Coming
You feel it before it happens.The replies get slower. The effort feels uneven. You start preparing your heart for a goodbye no one has said out loud yet. Sometimes the hardest part isn’t the ending itself, but the waiting... The knowing.If you’re in that in-between space right now, you’re not alone.Sit here for a while. 🤍#LettingGo #HealingEra #InnerChildHealing #EmotionalHealing #SoftHealing #Men
You needed a Hug, Not their Trauma Dump
The heart is a heavy burden so I understand the need to let others carry it sometimes If you are here right now, I pray that you find people who will listen with the intention of willing you to stay alive. Thank you for being here and I am proud of you for making the world a better place just by choosing to wake up everyday ❤️🩹#LettingGo #HealingEra #InnerChildHealing #EmotionalHealing #SoftHeali
When Utang na Loob Starts to Hurt
I grew up learning that gratitude meant carrying things quietly. That loving your family meant saying yes, even when it cost you rest, peace, or yourself. That utang na loob was something you held onto forever. No questions, no boundaries.This isn’t about being ungrateful. It’s about acknowledging that love shouldn’t feel like a lifelong debt. That you can appreciate what was given to you without
If My Parents Had Said This, I Would’ve Healed Sooner
I wanted to be loved and forgot I have always been loved.I wish they told me I could hand them my burdens, that I didn’t have to carry everything alone, and that I could trust them to fight the fight for me too.If you grew up feeling like you had to be strong even when you were breaking down, this episode is for you. You were never too much, you were just hurting and you needed someone to see this
Letting Go of the Version of You That Survived
If peace feels unfamiliar and letting go feels scary, you’re not behind. You’re just outgrowing survival. And it’s okay to let that version of you rest now. 🤍You learned how to survive before you learned how to rest. You became the strong one, the reliable one, the version of yourself that held everything together even when no one noticed how heavy it was getting. That version of you kept going be
You Can Heal Without Wishing Them Well
Not every story ends with forgiveness and that’s okay. This episode is about releasing the guilt of not wishing your ex, your friends, or the people who broke you… well. And again, that’s okay.One day, everything will fall into place and if now is not the time, that’s okay too.
Listen if you're crying
If you’re overwhelmed, exhausted, or quietly breaking down, this is a safe place to pause and breathe. No fixing, no advice, just comfort, grounding, and someone reminding you that you’re not weak for feeling this much. You don’t have to be okay right now. You just have to be present. 🫂#SelfHealing #MentalHealthAwareness #LateNightThoughts#ComfortPodcast #HealingJourney #AteTips #GentleReminder #Y
I just want someone to take care of me 😪
Though I was hurt, I still also want to believe in loveGusto ko rin ma-baby! Not in a dependent way but just in a gentle, safe way. After fighting the world all day, I don’t want to fight at home. I want softness. I want rest. Wanting that doesn’t make you weak. It just makes you honest.#atetips #DoYouLikeYourself #SelfReflection #PeoplePleaserAnthem #HealingPlaylist #LateNightThoughts #Overthinki
Do I deserve to be happy?
I read a book once and one of the characters said she fears happiness because emptiness is the feeling that comes after it. We talk about being “strong,” being “good,” but wonder why happiness is so hard to achieve yet so fast to disappear. If you’ve ever asked yourself whether you’re allowed to want peace, love, and joy, let’s figure it out together. #atetips #DoYouLikeYourself #SelfReflection #P
When you’re tired of being strong
For the days you don’t want to explain, fix, or carry everything alone. This is a space to rest. I see you and I thank you for you. #atetips #DoYouLikeYourself #SelfReflection #PeoplePleaserAnthem #HealingPlaylist #LateNightThoughts #OverthinkingHours #MainCharacterEnergy #SoftSpokenSad #InnerWork #ValidationCulture #SpotifyMood #QuietHealing #SelfLoveJourney
Do You Like Yourself or Just the Feeling of Being Liked?
I’ve asked myself this more times than I can count. In the moments I was praised, wanted, adored… and in the moments I’m not here to preach or pretend I’ve figured it all out. I’m still learning how to sit with myself without performing. How to be alone without feeling unlovable. How to choose myself even when it feels uncomfortable.If you’re the type who loves deeply, overthinks quietly, or gives
Is it necessary to BLOCK people?
If it's not healthy, let it go. Make sure na andun sa FAR AWAY!I don't have much to say but I do know that your peace and your heart's health should always be your priority against selfish people#atetips
Self-Awareness Check: Are you the Red Flag? 🚩
Accountability is now a love language 👊🏻 It's really normal for a hurt person to guard their hearts frantically but there will always be a limit to how much we see the world cynically. Not everyone is a threat. Not everyone can carry our burdens with us. Most of all, not everyone can understand your pain better than you. Which is why, despite the hurt always choose the kindest option and if yo
How to enjoy College Life? 📖
Exploration. Detachment. Gratitude 🌸College is such a fun time to be a child and I hope you never live to regret anything from being in the prime of your youth <3 #atetips #college
How to accept Insecurities? 🫂
My insecurity was a product of bullying and I'm still struggling to see past the selfish lies they made about me. There really is a lot at stake when people choose to be unkind but it would unfair if we keep living in the shadows of the choice they made.I hope this episode gives you the strength to listen to the people who love you and sees you as you. It will take some time to start believing
When cheaters cheat and homewreckers wreck 🔫
The biggest mystery that I have still yet to understand is why people hurt people who love. There's so much to unpack when feelings of betrayal are infused with our perception of kindness but I guess this is how we learn how to guard our hearts more. I condemn cheaters. I condemn homewreckers. Nonetheless, I pray that anyone who was put under their spell still find it in their hearts to love a
How can we find HOPE after pain?
The hardest thing I have to learn is how to let go of things I can't control... and that's pretty much a lot of things. My healing hasn't always been linear and there are times when my space is a reflection of how messy my head is but we're okay. I'm grateful for my detours and the experiences that led me to where I am now 💬#atetips
Worth it ba mag-BEG? 🧎🏻♀️➡️
I've done it to one person MULTIPLE TIMES A DAY for 3 years and I, with my whole heart, don't recommend it (HAHAHA) Love is meant to liberate us from our fears and anxieties and having to subject ourselves so low for one person is really not worth it. You owe it to yourself to be loved without having to make yourself small. That person, the one you claim you love, should not make you feel
Growing Up while Parents Grow Old
There are a lot of bitter pills to swallow as you enter your adulthood but seeing your parents slow down as you speed through your life is one that got me the most. I lived my life with my parents guiding my every step so having them let me go LIVE is really something else... There's a lot I'm learning in my early 20s and I'm glad I was raised to see things in retrospect before I forge
Why is it hard to make friends as an Adult?
Our priorities shift, our energies become sacred, and our time becomes a currency. Making friends as an adult require so much intention. It's not as simple as it was then but that doesn't mean we shouldn't make an effort to allow new characters to enter our story. The world is bigger as an adult so all the more that we should open ourselves to making new friends 🫶🏼
Is it okay to Trauma Dump and Overshare?
It's normal to want to bare it all when you start healing but this is a reminder to do it kindly and to seek others gently too ❤️🩹
How to Forgive?
The road to healing leads to forgiveness 🌻I hope you can find it in your heart to see the world through gentler lenses and give your inner child the peace they deserve. #atetips
Leaving Toxic Spaces for Kindness
This episode is really close to my heart as I always owe it to my council of love that re-learned how to be kind. If you find yourself in toxic spaces, please know that there will always be a way out of it ❤️🩹 Cheers to loving goodness and choosing kindness...always.#atetips #leavingtoxic #healing #movingonBGM: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FjHGZj2IjBk
"Uy Joke Lang": Boundaries among Friends
When will we know when a joke should be laughed at or when it should be called out for? 🤔The answer to that is learning how to read jokes through our guts! Yup, you read that right. Utak, Puso, SIKMURA. Boundaries are often blurred when comfort is drawn in a relationship but that doesn't mean it hurts a person any less. In fact, it might hurt them even more. Let's process anon's stor
The Truth about Situationships 🫵🏼
Never again will I say yes to a Situationship! hnggggYour life is too short to be a guinea pig in someone's mind games. Plus,you owe it to ourself and your council of love to say yes to someone who sees your heart as a precious thing than a toy!!Do you agree?? #atetips #situationships
When you see them with someone new (immediately)
Hurting a heart means leaving it scarred but breaking a promise means erasing the only good you left in them. It's not easy to see someone you've loved with someone new, especially when the pain they left keeps you from loving again. The fear to be left and to be replaced looms while pangs regret haunts you --- kumabaga WHY LOVE THEM OF ALL PEOPLE if they will only leave and replace? What
Burnouts and Breakdowns: Why you’re not Alone
(I uploaded the wrong file last week huhu thanks so much to those who pointed it out! It's the right one na hehe)"Pahinga" = Pa hinga = To breatheI'm so happy to be back! I wasn't able to post for over a month and I really miss having a conversation with you guys. This topic has been looming over my head since I've been working on Finals for the longest time. If you'r
The Fear of Falling Behind and Losing Time
Time is a very fickle thing for those who seem to be running out of it. I hope this episode gives you comfort that maybe our routes are just longer compared to others <3(Happy 1 year Ate Tips! Thank you so much for being here and for choosing kindness through our little community🤗)#atetips
Breaking Up when You're Still in Love
We don't often talk about the different kinds of break ups out there but this is definitely one that is so confusing to process. You feel betrayed, lost, confused, hurt, and empty all at the same time. No one deserves to have their heart pierced this way but if it happened to you, please allow yourself to grieve.A good partner, regardless of how kind we perceived them to be, is still a person
Look for LIFE FIRST, then love will follow
To those who are still waiting for love or to those who want to love again after a season of repair, your heart is worth pursuing! It's easy to drown in thoughts of self-deprecation sometimes but just because we're in line for love, doesn't mean we won't get the love we wish for. This is a message to look inward and to align yourself to your highest self's path, eventually it will lead us to where
Healing means being Vigilant for Kindness
You've already gone through so much to tolerate more pain. There are many things that healing rewards us: sleep, peace, second chances. But a reward that makes healing so enthralling is the ability to protect ourselves through kindness and through seeking kindness.We, of all people, know what pain does to a person and this experience of ours is our leverage to keep "bad people" out o
Healing when a Role Model hurts you
We all have that one person we look up to but sometimes, kissing the path they walked does not guarantee us a true north. Having a role model means using our idols as inspirations to be the person we want to be, even if it means using them as a standard of who we shouldn't be📩 #atetips
Healing means Forgiving Yourself
I don't have much to say but to wish that you are safe right now. I hope you surround yourself with good people and that from here on out, you receive the warmest of hugs 🫂We can and we will recover ❤️🩹#atetips
Can you give Second Chances?
If it' too hard to give forgive people, forgive yourself. If you can't give them a second chance, use the energy to change the narrative and not let anyone go through your pain. 🌻Hayyysss.... if only they were the people we needed then, none of this hurt have to be healed. #atetipsShoot me a dm if you want us to talk about your lore here on ig @ilog.asya ❤️🩹
How to Protect your Peace (esp. in your Single Era)
Ate Tip: Before we can even meet the love of our lives, we should be responsible enough to keep ourselves safe and well. The world can be cruel sometimes and it often comes at the expense of disturbing our peace😤 We can't always be slaves to the cruelty of the world, so might as well learn to be a fighter and an advocate of self-peace. 🕊️#atetips
If DESTINY plays, will you say YES again?
Rethinking about "The Hows of Us" at this age.... Boy, have my perception of it changed. As much as we want to be frank with people when they choose to go back to their past relationships, they can't help but be human too. They are attracted to what's familiar even if it means getting hurt again. If this does happen to you, how useful will our healing be?📩#atetips
Survival Skills you need in COLLEGE 🏫
College is crazy and you're not the only one struggling to get the hang of it 🥲 Either way, I hope you enjoy the craziness of being in your youth in college 😚#atetips
You have ONE BODY, might as we be FRIENDS with it 🌻
I know it's hard to look in the mirror but when you see beyond your insecurities, I hope you see these changes as mementos of your survival and growth🫂(Second upload huhu thank you so much to whoever pointed out na I uploaded a wrong one <3)#atetips
How to detect a MEAN person 🕵🏼
Age will tell you how to differentiate a wolf in sheep's clothing but the process of learning how to requires a lot of betraying and feeling fooled 😵💫...I don't want you to go through that anymore.I hope you keep yourself a safe distance from people like these and be BETTER than them 😤
Why "No Contact" protects you!
If a ghost appears out of nowhere, do you talk to it or do you go away? 👻 (i don't mean ghosts though...)Like any ghosts, they are meant to disturb your peace and your choice to entertain these ghosts make them have power over you.No Contact is meant to protect you. 😤PERO... it's up to you how long you will keep your walls up from it being torn down again by an underserved entity.🪞#atetips
The Pain and Joy of Healing ❤️🩹☁️
The best way to learn to be better is to NOT be like those who hurt you 😤I hope you reach the end of the episode because a beautiful soul needs all the credit for surviving what they had to go through🫂#atetips
Dating a Mama's Boy
Not all Mama's Boys are bad but the problem does stem from when he fails to protectandlove you...WITHOUT HIS MOM.Let's talk about how Mama's Boys come to be, why it became a problem, andWHY YOU SHOULD BREAK FREE. ⛓️💥#atetips
Surviving Kupal Culture 🫣
🌟Respect is non-negotiable while kindness begets kindness🌟
The world is cruel to the weak of hearts but that doesn't mean you can't protect yourself from it. You don't need to be what the world makes you to be and I hope you make the choice to always choose to be kind 🫂
Recovering from Backstabbers 🫂
It's hard to admit that the people we once loved the most are also the ones who made us go through the worse pain 🥺
This is for you who need to unpack why they contorted your truths in their selfish pursuit of finding joy. It was never a problem on you. You were caught in a web and I'm glad you're choosing to get out. 🫂
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Confused but Healing ❤️🩹
Hey! Do you ever see anyone on your feed and feel envious of how far they've come in terms of healing? 🥺 Kasi SAME!
Healing is so complex yet seeing how rewarding it can be for those who have gone through it, makes it so exciting to learn along the way. But first, we need to acknowledge that healing is also a paradox.
Let's talk about it! 🎤
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FOTGA: Friend that Got Away
If you found them already, keep them safe in your heart. Somewhere in your transition of being kids to being adults, you will lose each other and eventually become strangers.
Keep them. Protect them. Treasure them.
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Emotional Safety is Non-Negotiable
Ate Tip 6: The love you give should be treasured and kept safe. No "buts". No "what ifs". Just an imperative to always keep your heart safe.
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Introvert Power!!!
No Barkada? No problem 😌 It's not a weakness to be an introvert! It just means that you are selective in the people you want to trust and that is a STRENGTH!
Diba???
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"Valentine Anxiety"
Ate Tip 5: Your fear is valid but just imagine the POWER YOU NOW HAVE TO CHANGE THE NARRATIVE!
Happy Valentines! Here's a flower for ALL of us 💐
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Morning After the Break Up
This one hurts, I know but we need to talk about it.
Ate Tip 5: You are grieving because you loved and it hurts because you STILL love. Don't stress yourself out too much on how fast you need to heal. Give it time. Let it hurt. The morning after is but a first day to a numerous days of you in your season of repair.
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The "19 Love Theory"
Ate Tips 4: We make the worse mistakes when the stakes are low but GOSH do we learn so much from it!
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The Fear to Love AGAIN
Ate Tip 3: I know you're scared but there's so much that needs to be unpacked more than just a broken heart but the secret to it? SELF-ACCEPTANCE
Let's talk about it ❤️🩹
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Dealing with Pressure
Ate Tip 2: Life is your best teacher! As much as it's hard to believe, you will be much gentler with yourself once you learn how to position yourself as life's humble student.
I know everything feels like it's too much right now but know that many others out there are willing to lend you hand in sharing their wisdom to make your load lighter. 🫂❤️🩹
#atetips #AteTips #oldersister #mentalhealth #se
You're not sad, you're with the wrong people
Ate Tip 1: Your season of healing means it's also your season of plucking. You are given the agency to remove the people who no longer aligns with your growth and with the future you want yourself to have.
It may be difficult at first but you will be surpised that the best asset that anyone could have aside from themselves is their council of love. ♥️
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